Children and cursing.

Qij!

Mut!

Do those words mean anything to anyone? Probably not for many of you. If one saw a six year old girl running around saying, "Oh mut!" or "Qij!" they'd likely not even pay attention. Now how about this:

Fuck!

Shit!

Chances are most people know exactly what those two words mean. If they saw a six year old saying them they would likely get mad... or feel as if the child had bad parents... but why?

If you didn't catch it... Qij means fuck and mut means shit in Albanian. To me the fact that people wouldn't care about a child cursing in Albanian (or any other language they don't understand) just shows that words only carry the meaning that we give them. Words are only as powerful or "offensive" as we let them be.

Why do people find it so bad when a child curses? Especially if they do it out of simple frustration? Why is it better for a child to say "poop you!" but not "fuck you!" when the feeling and emotion behind it is exactly the same for both? The words used are just different... different sounds are being produced by them ... that is it.

I have so many issues with the whole cursing thing. First of all... as stated above it just really doesn't make any logical sense to ban children from saying certain words. Secondly, enforcing this is difficult... not because children are naturally bad or some nonsense... but because, to the child, it makes no fucking sense to ban words. On top of this parents will likely curse in front of or even at their children... then these same parents have the audacity to try and tell their children that they aren't allowed to curse. That is the definition of hypocrisy.

So, because the child is likely not to listen for those two reasons parents are likely to employ punishment. Anything from grounding to spanking. Does anyone besides me see how fucking ridiculous that is?

Yes... let us falsely imprison a child in their room because of the sounds they put together with their mouth... let us physically assault a child because of the words uttered from their mouth. Most parents don't give a shit behind the emotion or reasoning of the curse. A child could say, "Oh fuck!" because they fell and scraped their knee and they will get in trouble... but if the child says, "you are a big mean dad!" with complete hatred behind it... it is okay because at least they didn't curse!

Let your children curse. Help them to understand that in our society there are times and places when cursing is inappropriate but it should never have to do with age.

Peace, Love, and Cheeeeeeeeks.... also.... fuck shit bitch!